Thrive Specialists Share Their Favorite Books for Better Well-Being

Thrive • October 19, 2021

Thrive’s team is composed of psychiatrists, therapists, primary care physicians, nutritionists, and mindful movement specialists – and they all love a good book! In honor of Health Literacy Month , Thrive’s specialists shared their favorite books about mental and behavioral health, which they often recommend to clients. Topics range from eating disorders and body image to perinatal mental health, parenting, and grief, and also include several selections relating to overall well-being. Peruse a comprehensive list of titles along with the books’ corresponding descriptions below. Now, it’s time to cozy up and get inspired with a good book!

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BOOKS ABOUT MENTAL AND BEHAVIORAL HEALTH

A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters

by Steven C. Hayes Ph.D.

“In this landmark book, the originator and pioneering researcher into Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) lays out the psychological flexibility skills that make it one of the most powerful approaches research has yet to offer.”

Accessing the Healing Power of the Vagus Nerve: Self-Help Exercises for Anxiety, Depression, Trauma, and Autism

by Stanley Rosenburg

“Through a series of easy self-help exercises, the book illustrates the simple ways we can regulate the vagus nerve in order to initiate deep relaxation, improve sleep, and recover from injury and trauma.”

Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art

by James Nestor

“Drawing on thousands of years of medical texts and recent cutting-edge studies in pulmonology, psychology, biochemistry, and human physiology, Breath turns the conventional wisdom of what we thought we knew about our most basic biological function on its head.”

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle

by Emily Nagoski Ph.D. and Amelia Nagoski DMA

“Sisters Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., and Amelia Nagoski, DMA, are here to help end the cycle of feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. Instead of asking us to ignore the very real obstacles and societal pressures that stand between women and well-being, they explain with compassion and optimism what we’re up against—and show us how to fight back.”

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

by Melody Beattie

“With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency–charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness.”

Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life

by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

“For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently—and far less seriously—than its male counterpart. That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them.”

Man’s Search for Meaning

by Viktor E. Frankl

“‘An enduring work of survival literature,’ according to the New York Times, Viktor Frankl’s riveting account of his time in the Nazi concentration camps, and his insightful exploration of the human will to find meaning in spite of the worst adversity, has offered solace and guidance to generations of readers since it was first published in 1946. At the heart of Frankl’s theory of logotherapy (from the Greek word for “meaning”) is a conviction that the primary human drive is not pleasure, as Freud maintained, but rather the discovery and pursuit of what the individual finds meaningful.”

Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

by Brené Brown

“As a grounded theory researcher, Brown has listened as a range of people – from leaders in Fortune 500 companies and the military to artists, couples in long-term relationships, teachers, and parents – shared their stories of being brave, falling, and getting back up. She asked herself, what do these people with strong and loving relationships, leaders nurturing creativity, artists pushing innovation, and clergy walking with people through faith and mystery have in common? The answer was clear: They recognize the power of emotion, and they’re not afraid to lean into discomfort.”

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.

“In ‘The Body Keeps the Score’, [Dr. Bessel van der Kolk] uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshapes both body and brain, compromising sufferers’ capacities for pleasure, engagement, self-control, and trust. He explores innovative treatments—from neurofeedback and meditation to sports, drama, and yoga—that offer new paths to recovery by activating the brain’s natural neuroplasticity.”

The Buddha and the Borderline: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder through Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Buddhism, and Online Dating

by Kiera Van Gelder

“Kiera’s story sheds light on the private struggle to transform suffering into compassion for herself and others, and is essential reading for all seeking to understand what it truly means to recover and reclaim the desire to live.”

The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive

by Kristin Neff, Ph.D. and Christopher Germer, Ph.D.

“This science-based workbook offers a step-by-step approach to breaking free of harsh self-judgments and impossible standards in order to cultivate emotional well-being.”

The Sleep Solution: Why Your Sleep is Broken and How to Fix It

by W. Chris Winter, M.D.

“‘The Sleep Solution’ is an exciting journey of sleep self-discovery and understanding that will help you custom design specific interventions to fit your lifestyle.”

Things Might Go Terribly, Horribly Wrong: A Guide to Life Liberated from Anxiety

by Kelly G. Wilson, Ph.D.

“This book approaches the problem of anxiety a little differently than most. Instead of trying to help you overcome or reduce feelings of anxiety, ‘Things Might Go Terribly, Horribly Wrong’ will help you climb inside these feelings, sit in that place, and see what it would be like to have anxiety and still make room in your life to breathe and rest and live — really and truly live — in a way that matters to you.”

What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing

by Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D. and Oprah Winfrey

“Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking ‘What’s wrong with you?’ to ‘What happened to you?’”

Why Do I Hurt? A Patient Book About the Neuroscience of Pain

by Adriaan Louw, PT, Ph.D., CSMT

“‘Why Do I Hurt?’ teaches patients the science of pain in approachable language with metaphors, examples and images.”

Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams

by Matthew Walker, Ph.D.

“Charting cutting-edge scientific breakthroughs, and synthesizing decades of research and clinical practice, Walker explains how we can harness sleep to improve learning, mood, and energy levels; regulate hormones; prevent cancer, Alzheimer’s, and diabetes; slow the effects of aging; increase longevity; enhance the education and lifespan of our children, and boost the efficiency, success, and productivity of our businesses.”

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BOOKS ABOUT EATING DISORDERS AND BODY IMAGE

8 Keys to Recovery from an Eating Disorder: Effective Strategies from Therapeutic Practice and Personal Experience (8 Keys to Mental Health)

by Carolyn Costin and Gwen Schubert Grabb

“The authors bravely share their unique stories of suffering from and eventually overcoming their own severe eating disorders.”

Anti-Diet: Reclaim Your Time, Money, Well-Being, and Happiness Through Intuitive Eating

by Christy Harrison, MPH, RD

“In ‘Anti-Diet,’ Christy Harrison takes on diet culture and the multi-billion-dollar industries that profit from it, exposing all the ways it robs people of their time, money, health, and happiness.”

Body Image: A Handbook of Science, Practice, and Prevention

by Thomas F. Cash and Linda Smolak

“Contributors review established and emerging theories and findings; probe questions of culture, gender, health, and disorder; and present evidence-based assessment, treatment, and prevention approaches for the full range of body image concerns.”

Body Respect: What Conventional Health Books Get Wrong, Leave Out, and Just Plain Fail to Understand about Weight

by Linda Bacon, Ph.D. and Lucy Aphramor, Ph.D., RD

“Dr. Linda Bacon and Dr. Lucy Aphramor’s ‘Body Respect’ debunks common myths about weight, including the misconceptions that BMI can accurately measure health, that fatness necessarily leads to disease, and that dieting will improve health.”

Eating Disorders: A Parents’ Guide

by Rachel Bryant-Waugh and Bryan Lask

“Written by two experienced clinicians, this new edition is dedicated to clarifying the subject of eating disorders. Combining an accessible and straightforward introduction to the subject with practical advice, this book represents the first step towards recognising, understanding and dealing with the problem.”

Eating in the Light of the Moon: How Women Can Transform Their Relationship with Food Through Myths, Metaphors, and Storytelling

by Anita A. Johnston Ph.D.

“By weaving practical insights and exercises through a rich tapestry of multicultural myths, ancient legends, and folktales, Anita Johnston helps the millions of women preoccupied with their weight discover and address the issues behind their negative attitudes toward food.”

Eating to Lose: Healing From a Life of Diabulimia

by Maryjeanne Hunt

“A hopeful and empowering memoir of one woman’s struggle with diabulimia, an eating disorder linked to diabetes.”

Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia

by Sabrina Strings

“An important and original work, ‘Fearing the Black Body’ argues convincingly that fat phobia isn’t about health at all, but rather a means of using the body to validate race, class, and gender prejudice.”

Fed Up! : The Breakthrough Ten-Step, No-Diet Fitness Plan Paperback

by Wendy Oliver-Pyatt, M.D.

“No carb counting, ab rolling, or juicing—instead, Dr. Oliver-Pyatt shows how people can lose weight and develop a healthy attitude toward food—for life.”

Help Your Teenager Beat an Eating Disorder

by James Lock, M.D., Ph.D. and Daniel Le Grange, Ph.D.

“Learn how to monitor your teen’s eating and exercise, manage mealtimes, end weight-related power struggles, and partner successfully with health care providers.”

Helping Your Child with Extreme Picky Eating

by Katja Rowell, M.D. and Jenny McGlothlin, MS, SLP

“You’ll discover specific strategies for dealing with anxiety, low appetite, sensory challenges, autism spectrum-related feeding issues, oral motor delay, and medically-based feeding problems.”

Intuitive Eating: A Revolutionary Anti-Diet Approach

by RDN Evelyn Tribole, MS, RDN and Elyse Resch, MS

“The authors, both prominent health professionals in the field of nutrition and eating disorders, urge readers to embrace the goal of developing body positivity and reconnecting with one’s internal wisdom about eating―to unlearn everything they were taught about calorie-counting and other aspects of diet culture and to learn about the harm of weight stigma.”

It was Never About the Food: Stories of Recovery from Eating Disorders

by Dr. Tony Paulson, Dr. Eve Snyder, and Mark Gibson, LCSW

“Whether you are someone entering treatment, returning to treatment, supporting someone in treatment, or even contemplating treatment, it is intended to shine a spotlight on the path to recovery. The authors share the stories of four individuals who developed and struggled with an eating disorder and overcame it.”

Life Without Ed: How One Woman Declared Independence from Her Eating Disorder and How You Can Too

by Jenni Schaefer and Thom Rutledge

“Inspiring, compassionate, and filled with practical exercises to help you break up with your own personal E.D., ‘Life Without Ed’ provides hope to the millions of people plagued by eating disorders.”

More Than a Body: Your Body Is an Instrument, Not an Ornament

by Lexie Kite, Ph.D. and Lindsay Kite, Ph.D.

“With insights drawn from their extensive body image research, Lindsay and Lexie—Ph.D.s and founders of the nonprofit Beauty Redefined (and also twin sisters!)—lay out an action plan that arms you with the skills you need to reconnect with your whole self and free yourself from the constraints of self-objectification.”

My Kid is Back: Empowering Parents to Beat Anorexia Nervosa

by June Alexander and Daniel Le Grange

“‘My Kid is Back’ explains how family-based treatment can greatly reduce the severity of anorexia nervosa in children and adolescents, allowing the sufferer to return to normal eating patterns, and their families to return to normal family life.”

Sick Enough: A Guide to the Medical Complications of Eating Disorders

by Jennifer L. Gaudiani

“‘Sick Enough’ offers patients, their families, and clinicians a comprehensive, accessible review of the medical issues that arise from eating disorders by bringing relatable case presentations and a scientifically sound, engaging style to the topic.”

Why She Feels Fat: Understanding Your Loved One’s Eating Disorder and How You Can Help

by Johanna Marie McShane, Ph.D. and Tony Paulson, Ph.D.

“Sprinkled with over 100 quotes from recovering individuals, Why She Feels Fat explores eating disorders from the inside out to convey the emotional experience and perspectives of those who have them. Decoding the deeper meaning of the statement “I feel fat” is at the heart of this simple and straightforward book that also includes basic information about eating disorders, such as signs, symptoms, medical complications, causes, approaches to treatment, and stages of recovery.”

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BOOKS ABOUT PERINATAL MENTAL HEALTH

Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts: Breaking the Cycle of Unwanted Thoughts in Parenthood

by Karen Kleiman, MSW, LCSW and Amy Wenzel, Ph.D., ABPP

“This accessible guide addresses the nature of the intrusive and unwanted thoughts that can be common in new parenthood, and offers practical answers and advice on how to tackle these.”

Good Moms Have Scary Thoughts: A Healing Guide to the Secret Fears of New Mothers

by Karen Kleiman, MSW, LCSW and Molly McIntyre

“Lighthearted yet serious, warm yet not sugary, and perfectly portioned for busy moms with full plates, ‘Good Moms Have Scary Thoughts’ is the go-to resource for moms, partners, and families everywhere who need help with this difficult period.”

Movements That Heal: Rhythmic Movement Training and Primitive Reflex Integration

by Harald Blomberg, M.D. and Moira Dempsey

“Discusses the developmental and environmental reasons behind many learning, sensory, emotional and behavioural challenges.”

Nurture: A Modern Guide to Pregnancy, Birth, Early Motherhood and Trusting Yourself and Your Body

by Erica Chidi and Jillian Ditner

“Nurture is the only all-in-one pregnancy and birthing book for modern mothers-to-be and their partners who want a more integrative approach.”

Pregnancy and Postpartum Anxiety Workbook: Practical Skills to Help You Overcome Anxiety, Worry, Panic Attacks, Obsessions, and Compulsions

by Pamela S. Wiegartz, Ph.D., Kevin L. Gyoerkoe, PsyD, et al.

“‘The Pregnancy and Postpartum Anxiety Workbook’ offers powerful strategies grounded in evidence-based cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to help you control your worry, panic, and anxiety.”

The Fifth Trimester: The Working Mom’s Guide to Style, Sanity, and Big Success After Baby

by Lauren Smith Brody

“‘The Fifth Trimester’ is your one-stop shop for the honest, funny, and comforting tips, to-do lists, and take-charge strategies you’ll need to embrace your new identity as a working parent and set yourself up for success.”

This Isn’t What I Expected: Overcoming Postpartum Depression

by Karen Kleiman, MSW, LCSW and Valerie Davis Raskin, M.D.

“Written by two postpartum experts, a definitive guide offering compassionate support and solid advice on dealing with every aspect of Postpartum Depression (PPD).”

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BOOKS ABOUT PARENTING

Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline: The 7 Basic Skills for Turning Conflict into Cooperation

by Becky A. Bailey, Ph.D.

“You love your children, but if you’re like most parents, you don’t always love their behavior. But how can you guide them without resorting to less-than-optimal behavior yourself? Dr. Becky Bailey’s unusual and powerful approach to parenting has made thousands of families happier and healthier.”

The Good Mother Myth: Redefining Motherhood to Fit Reality

by Avital Norman Nathman

“This collection of essays takes a realistic look at motherhood and provides a platform for real voices and raw stories, each adding to the narrative of motherhood we don’t tend to see in the headlines or on the news.”

The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind

by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D.

“In this pioneering, practical book, Daniel J. Siegel, neuropsychiatrist and author of the bestselling Mindsight, and parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson offer a revolutionary approach to child rearing with twelve key strategies that foster healthy brain development, leading to calmer, happier children.”

The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto

by Brené Brown

A manifesto for parents from Brené Brown’s ‘Daring Greatly’ available for download.

Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive

by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and Mary Hartzell, M.Ed.

“In ‘Parenting from the Inside Out,’ child psychiatrist Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and early childhood expert Mary Hartzell, M.Ed., explore the extent to which our childhood experiences shape the way we parent.”

Raising a Secure Child: How Circle of Security Parenting Can Help You Nurture Your Child’s Attachment, Emotional Resilience, and Freedom to Explore

by Kent Hoffman

“Filled with vivid stories and unique practical tools, this book puts the keys to healthy attachment within everyone’s reach–self-understanding, flexibility, and the willingness to make and learn from mistakes.”

Raising a Sensory Smart Child: The Definitive Handbook for Helping Your Child with Sensory Processing Issues

by Lindsey Beil, M.A. OTR/L and Nancy Peske

“For children with sensory difficulties — those who struggle to process everyday sensations and exhibit unusual behaviors such as avoiding or seeking out touch, movement, sounds, and sights — this groundbreaking book is an invaluable resource.”

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BOOKS ABOUT GRIEF AND LOSS

Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief

by Joanne Cacciatore, Ph.D.

“Organized into fifty-two short chapters, ‘Bearing the Unbearable’ is a companion for life’s most difficult times, revealing how grief can open our hearts to connection, compassion, and the very essence of our shared humanity.”

Edna

by Susan Paradis

“This book can be of help to children who suffer from a variety of difficulties – grief, loss, anxiety, bullying, shyness, recent immigration, or other trauma.”

First Aid for Broken Hearts

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.

“Whether you’re struggling with a death, break-up, illness, unwanted life change, or loss of any kind, this book will help you both understand your predicament and figure out what to do about it.”

Holding Space: On Loving, Dying, and Letting Go

by Amy Wright Glenn

“A ‘beautifully written’ book on the spiritual, emotional, and philosophical implications of end-of-life care—by an author and hospital chaplain.”

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BOOKS FOR CHILDREN ABOUT GRIEF AND LOSS

In My Heart: A Book of Feelings

by Jo Witek

“‘In My Heart’ explores a full range of emotions, describing how they feel physically, inside, with language that is lyrical but also direct to empower readers to practice articulating and identifying their own emotions.”

Since My Brother Died

by Marisol Munoz-Kiehne

“In this book, the child talks about how things are different since his brother died. In the end, the child realizes his brother is still alive in his heart.”

The Goodbye Book

by Todd Parr

“Touching upon the host of emotions children experience, Todd reminds readers that it’s okay not to know all the answers, and that someone will always be there to support them.”

The Grief Bubble: Helping Kids Explore and Understand Grief

by Kerry DeBay

“‘The Grief Bubble’ is a special workbook for children ages 6 and older who have experienced the death of someone special.”

The Invisible String

by Patrice Karst

“‘The Invisible String’ offers a very simple approach to overcoming loneliness, separation, or loss with an imaginative twist that children easily understand and embrace, and delivers a particularly compelling message in today’s uncertain times.”

The Memory Tree

by Britta Teckentrup

“A beautiful and heartfelt picture book to help children celebrate the memories left behind when a loved one dies.”

The Rabbit Listened

by Cori Doerrfeld

“With its spare, poignant text and irresistibly sweet illustration, ‘The Rabbit Listened’ is about how to comfort and heal the people in your life, by taking the time to carefully, lovingly, gently listen.”

When Dinosaurs Die, A Guide to Understanding Death

by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown

“Straightforward and comprehensive, this indispensable book is a comforting aid to help young kids and families through a difficult time in their lives.”

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TURN THE PAGE ON YOUR MENTAL HEALTH

If you’d like, you can continue learning about and improving your mental and behavioral health through therapy. Thrive offers outpatient therapy as well as treatment programs for individuals struggling with eating disorders and perinatal mental health. Give us a call to learn more about our services.

Thrive’s team is composed of psychiatrists, therapists, primary care physicians, nutritionists, and mindful movement specialists – and they all love a good book! In honor of Health Literacy Month , Thrive’s specialists shared their favorite books about mental and behavioral health, which they often recommend to clients. Topics range from eating disorders and body image to perinatal mental health, parenting, and grief, and also include several selections relating to overall well-being. Peruse a comprehensive list of titles along with the books’ corresponding descriptions below. Now, it’s time to cozy up and get inspired with a good book!

BOOKS ABOUT MENTAL AND BEHAVIORAL HEALTH

A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters

by Steven C. Hayes Ph.D.

“In this landmark book, the originator and pioneering researcher into Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) lays out the psychological flexibility skills that make it one of the most powerful approaches research has yet to offer.”

Accessing the Healing Power of the Vagus Nerve: Self-Help Exercises for Anxiety, Depression, Trauma, and Autism

by Stanley Rosenburg

“Through a series of easy self-help exercises, the book illustrates the simple ways we can regulate the vagus nerve in order to initiate deep relaxation, improve sleep, and recover from injury and trauma.”

Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art 

by James Nestor

“Drawing on thousands of years of medical texts and recent cutting-edge studies in pulmonology, psychology, biochemistry, and human physiology, Breath turns the conventional wisdom of what we thought we knew about our most basic biological function on its head.”

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle 

by Emily Nagoski Ph.D. and Amelia Nagoski DMA 

“Sisters Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., and Amelia Nagoski, DMA, are here to help end the cycle of feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. Instead of asking us to ignore the very real obstacles and societal pressures that stand between women and well-being, they explain with compassion and optimism what we’re up against—and show us how to fight back.”

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

by Melody Beattie

“With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency–charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness.”

Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life 

by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. 

“For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently—and far less seriously—than its male counterpart. That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them.”

Man’s Search for Meaning

by Viktor E. Frankl

“‘An enduring work of survival literature,’ according to the New York Times, Viktor Frankl’s riveting account of his time in the Nazi concentration camps, and his insightful exploration of the human will to find meaning in spite of the worst adversity, has offered solace and guidance to generations of readers since it was first published in 1946. At the heart of Frankl’s theory of logotherapy (from the Greek word for “meaning”) is a conviction that the primary human drive is not pleasure, as Freud maintained, but rather the discovery and pursuit of what the individual finds meaningful.”

Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

by Brené Brown

“As a grounded theory researcher, Brown has listened as a range of people – from leaders in Fortune 500 companies and the military to artists, couples in long-term relationships, teachers, and parents – shared their stories of being brave, falling, and getting back up. She asked herself, what do these people with strong and loving relationships, leaders nurturing creativity, artists pushing innovation, and clergy walking with people through faith and mystery have in common? The answer was clear: They recognize the power of emotion, and they’re not afraid to lean into discomfort.”

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma 

by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.

“In ‘The Body Keeps the Score’, [Dr. Bessel van der Kolk] uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshapes both body and brain, compromising sufferers’ capacities for pleasure, engagement, self-control, and trust. He explores innovative treatments—from neurofeedback and meditation to sports, drama, and yoga—that offer new paths to recovery by activating the brain’s natural neuroplasticity.”

The Buddha and the Borderline: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder through Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Buddhism, and Online Dating

by Kiera Van Gelder

“Kiera’s story sheds light on the private struggle to transform suffering into compassion for herself and others, and is essential reading for all seeking to understand what it truly means to recover and reclaim the desire to live.”

The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive

by Kristin Neff, Ph.D. and Christopher Germer, Ph.D.

“This science-based workbook offers a step-by-step approach to breaking free of harsh self-judgments and impossible standards in order to cultivate emotional well-being.” 

The Sleep Solution: Why Your Sleep is Broken and How to Fix It

by W. Chris Winter, M.D.

“‘The Sleep Solution’ is an exciting journey of sleep self-discovery and understanding that will help you custom design specific interventions to fit your lifestyle.” 

Things Might Go Terribly, Horribly Wrong: A Guide to Life Liberated from Anxiety

by Kelly G. Wilson, Ph.D.

“This book approaches the problem of anxiety a little differently than most. Instead of trying to help you overcome or reduce feelings of anxiety, ‘Things Might Go Terribly, Horribly Wrong’ will help you climb inside these feelings, sit in that place, and see what it would be like to have anxiety and still make room in your life to breathe and rest and live — really and truly live — in a way that matters to you.”

What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing 

by Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D. and Oprah Winfrey

“Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking ‘What’s wrong with you?’ to ‘What happened to you?’”

Why Do I Hurt? A Patient Book About the Neuroscience of Pain

by Adriaan Louw, PT, Ph.D., CSMT

“‘Why Do I Hurt?’ teaches patients the science of pain in approachable language with metaphors, examples and images.”

Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams

by Matthew Walker, Ph.D.

“Charting cutting-edge scientific breakthroughs, and synthesizing decades of research and clinical practice, Walker explains how we can harness sleep to improve learning, mood, and energy levels; regulate hormones; prevent cancer, Alzheimer’s, and diabetes; slow the effects of aging; increase longevity; enhance the education and lifespan of our children, and boost the efficiency, success, and productivity of our businesses.”

Take me back to the top.

BOOKS ABOUT EATING DISORDERS AND BODY IMAGE

8 Keys to Recovery from an Eating Disorder: Effective Strategies from Therapeutic Practice and Personal Experience (8 Keys to Mental Health)

by Carolyn Costin and Gwen Schubert Grabb 

“The authors bravely share their unique stories of suffering from and eventually overcoming their own severe eating disorders.”

Anti-Diet: Reclaim Your Time, Money, Well-Being, and Happiness Through Intuitive Eating

by Christy Harrison, MPH, RD

“In ‘Anti-Diet,’ Christy Harrison takes on diet culture and the multi-billion-dollar industries that profit from it, exposing all the ways it robs people of their time, money, health, and happiness.”

Body Image: A Handbook of Science, Practice, and Prevention

by Thomas F. Cash and Linda Smolak

“Contributors review established and emerging theories and findings; probe questions of culture, gender, health, and disorder; and present evidence-based assessment, treatment, and prevention approaches for the full range of body image concerns.” 

Body Respect: What Conventional Health Books Get Wrong, Leave Out, and Just Plain Fail to Understand about Weight

by Linda Bacon, Ph.D. and Lucy Aphramor, Ph.D., RD

“Dr. Linda Bacon and Dr. Lucy Aphramor’s ‘Body Respect’ debunks common myths about weight, including the misconceptions that BMI can accurately measure health, that fatness necessarily leads to disease, and that dieting will improve health.”

Eating Disorders: A Parents’ Guide

by Rachel Bryant-Waugh and Bryan Lask

“Written by two experienced clinicians, this new edition is dedicated to clarifying the subject of eating disorders. Combining an accessible and straightforward introduction to the subject with practical advice, this book represents the first step towards recognising, understanding and dealing with the problem.”

Eating in the Light of the Moon: How Women Can Transform Their Relationship with Food Through Myths, Metaphors, and Storytelling 

by Anita A. Johnston Ph.D. 

“By weaving practical insights and exercises through a rich tapestry of multicultural myths, ancient legends, and folktales, Anita Johnston helps the millions of women preoccupied with their weight discover and address the issues behind their negative attitudes toward food.”

Eating to Lose: Healing From a Life of Diabulimia

by Maryjeanne Hunt 

“A hopeful and empowering memoir of one woman’s struggle with diabulimia, an eating disorder linked to diabetes.”

Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia

by Sabrina Strings

“An important and original work, ‘Fearing the Black Body’ argues convincingly that fat phobia isn’t about health at all, but rather a means of using the body to validate race, class, and gender prejudice.”

Fed Up! : The Breakthrough Ten-Step, No-Diet Fitness Plan Paperback

by Wendy Oliver-Pyatt, M.D.

“No carb counting, ab rolling, or juicing—instead, Dr. Oliver-Pyatt shows how people can lose weight and develop a healthy attitude toward food—for life.”

Help Your Teenager Beat an Eating Disorder

by James Lock, M.D., Ph.D. and Daniel Le Grange, Ph.D.

“Learn how to monitor your teen’s eating and exercise, manage mealtimes, end weight-related power struggles, and partner successfully with health care providers.”

Helping Your Child with Extreme Picky Eating

by Katja Rowell, M.D. and Jenny McGlothlin, MS, SLP

“You’ll discover specific strategies for dealing with anxiety, low appetite, sensory challenges, autism spectrum-related feeding issues, oral motor delay, and medically-based feeding problems.”

Intuitive Eating: A Revolutionary Anti-Diet Approach

by RDN Evelyn Tribole, MS, RDN and Elyse Resch, MS 

“The authors, both prominent health professionals in the field of nutrition and eating disorders, urge readers to embrace the goal of developing body positivity and reconnecting with one’s internal wisdom about eating―to unlearn everything they were taught about calorie-counting and other aspects of diet culture and to learn about the harm of weight stigma.”

It was Never About the Food: Stories of Recovery from Eating Disorders

by Dr. Tony Paulson, Dr. Eve Snyder, and Mark Gibson, LCSW

“Whether you are someone entering treatment, returning to treatment, supporting someone in treatment, or even contemplating treatment, it is intended to shine a spotlight on the path to recovery. The authors share the stories of four individuals who developed and struggled with an eating disorder and overcame it.”

Life Without Ed: How One Woman Declared Independence from Her Eating Disorder and How You Can Too

by Jenni Schaefer and Thom Rutledge

“Inspiring, compassionate, and filled with practical exercises to help you break up with your own personal E.D., ‘Life Without Ed’ provides hope to the millions of people plagued by eating disorders.”

More Than a Body: Your Body Is an Instrument, Not an Ornament 

by Lexie Kite, Ph.D. and Lindsay Kite, Ph.D.

“With insights drawn from their extensive body image research, Lindsay and Lexie—Ph.D.s and founders of the nonprofit Beauty Redefined (and also twin sisters!)—lay out an action plan that arms you with the skills you need to reconnect with your whole self and free yourself from the constraints of self-objectification.”

My Kid is Back: Empowering Parents to Beat Anorexia Nervosa

by June Alexander and Daniel Le Grange

“‘My Kid is Back’ explains how family-based treatment can greatly reduce the severity of anorexia nervosa in children and adolescents, allowing the sufferer to return to normal eating patterns, and their families to return to normal family life.”

Sick Enough: A Guide to the Medical Complications of Eating Disorders

by Jennifer L. Gaudiani

“‘Sick Enough’ offers patients, their families, and clinicians a comprehensive, accessible review of the medical issues that arise from eating disorders by bringing relatable case presentations and a scientifically sound, engaging style to the topic.”

Why She Feels Fat: Understanding Your Loved One’s Eating Disorder and How You Can Help

by Johanna Marie McShane, Ph.D.  and Tony Paulson, Ph.D.

“Sprinkled with over 100 quotes from recovering individuals, Why She Feels Fat explores eating disorders from the inside out to convey the emotional experience and perspectives of those who have them. Decoding the deeper meaning of the statement “I feel fat” is at the heart of this simple and straightforward book that also includes basic information about eating disorders, such as signs, symptoms, medical complications, causes, approaches to treatment, and stages of recovery.”

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BOOKS ABOUT PERINATAL MENTAL HEALTH

Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts: Breaking the Cycle of Unwanted Thoughts in Parenthood

by Karen Kleiman, MSW, LCSW  and Amy Wenzel, Ph.D., ABPP

“This accessible guide addresses the nature of the intrusive and unwanted thoughts that can be common in new parenthood, and offers practical answers and advice on how to tackle these.”

Good Moms Have Scary Thoughts: A Healing Guide to the Secret Fears of New Mothers

by Karen Kleiman, MSW, LCSW  and Molly McIntyre

“Lighthearted yet serious, warm yet not sugary, and perfectly portioned for busy moms with full plates, ‘Good Moms Have Scary Thoughts’ is the go-to resource for moms, partners, and families everywhere who need help with this difficult period.”

Movements That Heal: Rhythmic Movement Training and Primitive Reflex Integration 

by Harald Blomberg, M.D.  and Moira Dempsey

“Discusses the developmental and environmental reasons behind many learning, sensory, emotional and behavioural challenges.”

Nurture: A Modern Guide to Pregnancy, Birth, Early Motherhood and Trusting Yourself and Your Body

by Erica Chidi and Jillian Ditner

“Nurture is the only all-in-one pregnancy and birthing book for modern mothers-to-be and their partners who want a more integrative approach.”

Pregnancy and Postpartum Anxiety Workbook: Practical Skills to Help You Overcome Anxiety, Worry, Panic Attacks, Obsessions, and Compulsions 

by Pamela S. Wiegartz, Ph.D., Kevin L. Gyoerkoe, PsyD, et al.

“‘The Pregnancy and Postpartum Anxiety Workbook’ offers powerful strategies grounded in evidence-based cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to help you control your worry, panic, and anxiety.”

The Fifth Trimester: The Working Mom’s Guide to Style, Sanity, and Big Success After Baby

by Lauren Smith Brody 

“‘The Fifth Trimester’ is your one-stop shop for the honest, funny, and comforting tips, to-do lists, and take-charge strategies you’ll need to embrace your new identity as a working parent and set yourself up for success.”

This Isn’t What I Expected: Overcoming Postpartum Depression

by Karen Kleiman, MSW, LCSW  and Valerie Davis Raskin, M.D.

“Written by two postpartum experts, a definitive guide offering compassionate support and solid advice on dealing with every aspect of Postpartum Depression (PPD).”

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BOOKS ABOUT PARENTING

Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline: The 7 Basic Skills for Turning Conflict into Cooperation

by Becky A. Bailey, Ph.D.

“You love your children, but if you’re like most parents, you don’t always love their behavior. But how can you guide them without resorting to less-than-optimal behavior yourself? Dr. Becky Bailey’s unusual and powerful approach to parenting has made thousands of families happier and healthier.”

The Good Mother Myth: Redefining Motherhood to Fit Reality

by Avital Norman Nathman

“This collection of essays takes a realistic look at motherhood and provides a platform for real voices and raw stories, each adding to the narrative of motherhood we don’t tend to see in the headlines or on the news.”

The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind 

by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D.

“In this pioneering, practical book, Daniel J. Siegel, neuropsychiatrist and author of the bestselling Mindsight, and parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson offer a revolutionary approach to child rearing with twelve key strategies that foster healthy brain development, leading to calmer, happier children.”

The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto

by Brené Brown

A manifesto for parents from Brené Brown’s ‘Daring Greatly’ available for download. 

Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive

by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D.  and Mary Hartzell, M.Ed.

“In ‘Parenting from the Inside Out,’ child psychiatrist Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and early childhood expert Mary Hartzell, M.Ed., explore the extent to which our childhood experiences shape the way we parent.”

Raising a Secure Child: How Circle of Security Parenting Can Help You Nurture Your Child’s Attachment, Emotional Resilience, and Freedom to Explore

by Kent Hoffman

“Filled with vivid stories and unique practical tools, this book puts the keys to healthy attachment within everyone’s reach–self-understanding, flexibility, and the willingness to make and learn from mistakes.” 

Raising a Sensory Smart Child: The Definitive Handbook for Helping Your Child with Sensory Processing Issues  

by Lindsey Beil, M.A. OTR/L and Nancy Peske

“For children with sensory difficulties — those who struggle to process everyday sensations and exhibit unusual behaviors such as avoiding or seeking out touch, movement, sounds, and sights — this groundbreaking book is an invaluable resource.”

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BOOKS ABOUT GRIEF AND LOSS

Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief 

by Joanne Cacciatore, Ph.D.

“Organized into fifty-two short chapters, ‘Bearing the Unbearable’ is a companion for life’s most difficult times, revealing how grief can open our hearts to connection, compassion, and the very essence of our shared humanity.” 

Edna

by Susan Paradis

“This book can be of help to children who suffer from a variety of difficulties – grief, loss, anxiety, bullying, shyness, recent immigration, or other trauma.”

First Aid for Broken Hearts 

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.

“Whether you’re struggling with a death, break-up, illness, unwanted life change, or loss of any kind, this book will help you both understand your predicament and figure out what to do about it.”

Holding Space: On Loving, Dying, and Letting Go

by Amy Wright Glenn

“A ‘beautifully written’ book on the spiritual, emotional, and philosophical implications of end-of-life care—by an author and hospital chaplain.”

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BOOKS FOR CHILDREN ABOUT GRIEF AND LOSS

In My Heart: A Book of Feelings 

by Jo Witek

“‘In My Heart’ explores a full range of emotions, describing how they feel physically, inside, with language that is lyrical but also direct to empower readers to practice articulating and identifying their own emotions.”

Since My Brother Died

by Marisol Munoz-Kiehne

“In this book, the child talks about how things are different since his brother died. In the end, the child realizes his brother is still alive in his heart.”

The Goodbye Book  

by Todd Parr

“Touching upon the host of emotions children experience, Todd reminds readers that it’s okay not to know all the answers, and that someone will always be there to support them.”

The Grief Bubble: Helping Kids Explore and Understand Grief  

by Kerry DeBay

“‘The Grief Bubble’ is a special workbook for children ages 6 and older who have experienced the death of someone special.”

The Invisible String 

by Patrice Karst 

“‘The Invisible String’ offers a very simple approach to overcoming loneliness, separation, or loss with an imaginative twist that children easily understand and embrace, and delivers a particularly compelling message in today’s uncertain times.”

The Memory Tree 

by Britta Teckentrup 

“A beautiful and heartfelt picture book to help children celebrate the memories left behind when a loved one dies.”

The Rabbit Listened 

by Cori Doerrfeld

“With its spare, poignant text and irresistibly sweet illustration, ‘The Rabbit Listened’ is about how to comfort and heal the people in your life, by taking the time to carefully, lovingly, gently listen.”

When Dinosaurs Die, A Guide to Understanding Death 

by Laurie Krasny Brown  and Marc Brown

“Straightforward and comprehensive, this indispensable book is a comforting aid to help young kids and families through a difficult time in their lives.”

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June 4, 2025
Coming out is a deeply personal, courageous, and in many cases, life-changing act. Whether you're sharing your sexual orientation or gender identity, coming out is about embracing authenticity and sharing an essential part of who you are. During the process of coming out, prioritizing your mental health at every stage is crucial. In this blog, we'll discuss insights and strategies to support your mental health before, during, and after coming out. Wherever you are in your journey, know that your experience is valid and you are not alone. Understanding the Mental Impact of Coming Out Coming out can bring about a lot of big feelings, including fear, relief, joy, anxiety, grief, and hope, sometimes all at once. Know that heightened emotions during this time are completely normal. Sharing such an integral part of yourself with the world can feel intense, but even with the ups and downs, being authentically you is worth it. Because LGBTQIA+ individuals face added mental health burdens due to stigma and discrimination, taking care of yourself during this time is more important than ever. You might experience increased anxiety, mental exhaustion, or avoidance ahead of coming out, so don’t be afraid to reach out for support. At its core, coming out is about authentic self-expression and showing your truest self, which can feel both exciting and scary at the same time . The self-acceptance and community gained from coming out is a vital part of finding long-term strength and joy. Still, it’s okay if you feel uncertain or conflicted, and these feelings are just part of the process. Before Coming Out: Emotional Preparation Coming out starts with reflection. Remember that there’s no rush when it comes to figuring out who you are. It’s okay to take time to understand your identity and what coming out might mean for you. Here are a few questions to consider: What do I hope to gain by coming out? Who feels emotionally safe to talk to? What are my fears, and how can I manage them? Mental wellness tips before coming out: Journaling can help you better understand your feelings and fears and explore different ways to share your truth. Talking through your feelings and different scenarios with a therapist , especially one who is LGBTQIA+ affirming, can help you to feel more supported and ready to come out. Practice grounding techniques like deep breathing, meditation, or visualization to ease anxiety ahead of sharing your identity. Helpful resources for coming out include: Trevor Project Lifeline (1-866-488-7386) TrevorSpace (an online community for LGBTQIA+ youth) OurCenter (a local community center for the LGBTQIA+ community in Reno) During the Coming Out Process: Staying Grounded The act of coming out can feel intimidating, as you’re sharing such a vital part of who you are. You might experience fear, panic, or doubt. While these feelings are real, know that you don’t have to navigate them alone. Tips for emotional resilience: Practice conversations ahead of time with a therapist or supportive friend so you feel ready when the time comes to share. Choose a time and place where you feel safe and in control. Use affirming statements, like, “I deserve to be loved for who I am.” Coping with negative responses: Set emotional boundaries with people who aren’t supportive. Create an emotional safety plan: know who you can call, where you can go, and what can help soothe you in moments of distress. After Coming Out: Processing and Healing Coming out, no matter how it went, deserves to be celebrated. An act of strength and authenticity like coming out is no small feat, so be proud of yourself for sharing who you are. Even so, the emotional aftermath can be complicated. You might feel joy and empowerment or loss and grief, especially if relationships shift. Healing strategies: Acknowledge your courage . Even difficult conversations are acts of strength. Rebuild your safety if you've experienced rejection. This might mean changing your environment or seeking new support systems. Release guilt or shame. Being who you are is never something you should feel ashamed or guilty for. Support networks can make a huge difference. Seek out different forms of support like: LGBTQIA+ support groups (in-person or online) Peer mentors or community leaders Allies, friends, or family who affirm and respect your identity Therapeutic options to deal with stress, grief, or isolation associated with coming out: EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) can help process trauma. Narrative therapy helps you rewrite your story in your own empowering voice. Coming Out More Than Once: Navigating the Long Game Coming out isn’t just a single milestone, it’s a recurring process. You might come out again and again: to a healthcare provider, a neighbor, a partner, or a friend. It can feel exhausting or unfair to have to come out more than once, but each time, you’ll continue to find more strength, confidence, and understanding for yourself. Other tips for coming out: Focus on cultivating a strong inner identity that doesn’t rely on external validation. You know who you are, and you don’t need to prove yourself to anyone. Create a personal toolkit of coping and grounding strategies to deal with stress or burn-out associated with coming out. Thrive Wellness offers a free breathing exercise guide to help relieve anxiety and calm the nervous system. Download it here . Find affirmation and support through community. This can look like finding a chosen family, looking up to queer role models, attending events that celebrate the LGBTQIA+ community and its history, and working on embracing authenticity and having pride in who you are. Remember, there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to coming out, and it’s never too late to share who you are. Whether you're preparing to come out, in the midst of sharing your truth, or processing what came after, know that you are worthy of love, safety, and joy. Your truth is worth celebrating, today and everyday! For support during the coming out process and beyond, reach out to our team of affirming, inclusive, and compassionate mental and physical health care providers. We're here for you.
May 15, 2025
Taking steps to protect and maintain good mental health is key to living your best life. Whether it's managing stress, building emotional resilience, or simply finding a moment of peace during your busy day, developing a set of strategies to protect your mental health is essential. This Mental Health Awareness Month is all about turning action into awareness, so why not take action today to care for yourself and improve your mental health? This guide outlines ten impactful activities you can incorporate into your daily routine to boost your mental health starting today. By incorporating these activities into your days, you can take control of your mental health journey, grow personally, and improve your relationship with yourself and others. Why is Taking Action for Your Mental Health Important? Understanding the significance of proactive mental health care can change how we treat ourselves and move through our everyday lives. Taking action for yourself not only improves your overall well-being but also helps prevent existing or potential issues from becoming more severe. When you prioritize your mental health, you’ll feel a greater sense of happiness and productivity, paving the way for stronger relationships and a fuller, more enjoyable life. Focusing on your mental health is not just about problem-solving, but about living in a balanced and fulfilling way that supports your overall well-being and ability to thrive. 10 Effective Activities for Improving Your Mental Health It’s essential to have a repertoire of activities on hand that can boost your mental health. Simple activities like sleeping enough, meditating, spending time with a friend, or seeing a therapist can have huge impacts on your overall mental wellness. Prioritizing your mental health doesn’t have to be complicated or difficult, it’s just about doing activities that make you feel joyful, relaxed, or energized, fueling a better outlook on life overall. Here are 10 activities you can do today to help your brain and body to feel their best: 1. Mindful Practices Practicing mindfulness is a simple yet impactful step you can take in improving and protecting your mental health. Mindfulness practices include activities like meditating and mindful breathing to calm the mind and reconnect with the body. Meditation and breathing exercises are shown to reduce stress, improve focus, and grow your self-awareness. For more breathing exercises for anxiety relief, download our free guide “Breathe Easy” . 2. Eating Intuitively Eating intuitively is a powerful way to boost your energy and mood and reduce stress around food, helping to improve your overall mental health. This approach encourages a healthy relationship with food by promoting balance, variety, and pleasure without guilt. Intuitive eating helps you recognize and respond to your body's signals, leading to more mindful and satisfying eating experiences. By focusing on how foods make you feel, both physically and emotionally, you can make healthier choices that nourish your body and mind. Adequate nutrition has been shown to support brain function, improve mood, and reduce the risk of mental health conditions. 3. Sleep Hygiene Practicing good sleep hygiene is essential for maintaining overall health and wellbeing. Establishing a consistent bedtime routine helps regulate your sleep patterns, ensuring you get the deep sleep your body needs. Aim to go to bed and wake up at the same time each day if possible. Quality sleep is vital for cognitive function, emotional stability, and physical health, making good sleep hygiene a key component of wellness. 4. Mindful Movement Doing movement that you enjoy can have massive impacts on your mental health. Exercise reduces stress by triggering the release of endorphins, which have mood-lifting and pain-relieving effects. It also helps regulate hormones like cortisol, improving the body's ability to handle stress. By simply incorporating enjoyable movement into your routine a few times a week, you’ll see improvements in both your mental and physical health. 5. Go Outside Spending time outside can support physical, mental, and emotional well-being. It allows you to disconnect from everyday stressors, reconnect with the natural world, and experience a sense of tranquility and peace. Spending time in nature has been linked to reduced anxiety, improved mood, and increased mindfulness. Make time to explore outdoor environments such as parks, forests, beaches, or gardens. Practice mindfulness while in nature, focusing on the scenery and sounds that surround you. Incorporating nature into your daily routine can provide a refreshing break from everyday life, improving your mental health. 6. Make Time for Creative Pursuits Creative activities can be a great outlet for self-expression and reducing stress. Creativity allows you to explore new ideas, solve problems, and connect with your inner self. Even dedicating just 10 minutes a day to creative pursuits can have a positive impact on your mental health. Activities like drawing, painting, journaling, or crafting can help you unwind and stimulate your mind. Creative expression can also improve mood, enhance cognitive function, and foster a sense of accomplishment. 7. Practice Positive Self-talk Positive self-talk is a powerful habit that involves speaking to yourself in a kind, supportive, and encouraging manner. It's about cultivating a positive mindset and nurturing self-compassion. By shifting negative thoughts and beliefs to positive affirmations, you can boost your self-esteem and overall well-being. Practice acknowledging your strengths, accomplishments, and perseverance, even in challenging situations. 8. Practice Social Wellness Social wellness is about nurturing meaningful connections with others and fostering a supportive network of relationships. It involves engaging in positive interactions, building trust, and offering and receiving support. Cultivating social wellness contributes to emotional resilience, reduces feelings of isolation, and promotes overall happiness. Take time to connect with friends and family members regularly, whether through phone calls, video chats, or in-person gatherings. 9. Do Something for You Making time for yourself is crucial for maintaining life balance and preventing burnout. This involves setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and prioritizing activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Taking time for yourself allows you to recharge, reflect, and reconnect with your inner needs and desires. Self-care can take many forms, from indulging in a hobby to simply enjoying a quiet moment alone. Regularly dedicating time to yourself helps reduce stress, improve mental clarity, and enhance overall well-being. 10. Visit a Mental Health Professional Sometimes, we need professional support for our mental health, and that’s okay! Knowing when it’s time to see a therapist shows strength and self-awareness. No matter where you are in your mental health journey, getting guidance from a therapist can be a helpful tool in living your best life. Our team of mental health professionals are ready to support you now, don’t be afraid to reach out and open up. When Should I Seek Professional Help for My Mental Health? It's important to know when it's time to reach out to a mental health professional. Persistent feelings of sadness, anxiety, or emotional distress that interfere with your daily life are clear indicators for seeking professional help. If your coping mechanisms and self-care activities fail to alleviate your mental health concerns, reaching out can offer valuable support and interventions. Nurturing Your Mental Well-being Through Action Investing time and effort in your mental health can make positive differences in your everyday life. By understanding the importance of mental health practices and incorporating proactive strategies, you lay the groundwork for feeling better and staying mentally strong over time. Whether through improved sleep hygiene, mindful practices, or seeking professional help when needed, these efforts can bring more joy, emotional stability, and peace into your life. Make these activities a regular part of your day with a focus on self-growth, and you'll be on your way to a healthier mind and a fuller life.
April 28, 2025
Romantic relationships can be one of the most joyful parts of life, but they can also stir up deep fears, especially for those living with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). When OCD takes shape around your relationship, it’s known as Relationship OCD (ROCD), a lesser-known but deeply distressing form of OCD that centers on obsessive fears and doubts about your partner or the relationship itself. Have you ever found yourself spending hours analyzing how you feel, seeking reassurance that your partner is “the one,” or constantly second-guessing whether you’re truly in love? If so, you’re not alone. ROCD is real, and with the right tools and support, healing is possible. Let’s break down what Relationship OCD really looks like, how it affects interactions, and how to find more peace, connection, and presence in your relationship. What is Relationship OCD? Relationship OCD is a subset of obsessive-compulsive disorder that fixates on doubts, fears, or perceived flaws within romantic relationships. Unlike the normal ups and downs that every couple experiences, ROCD involves a preoccupation with intrusive thoughts that feel impossible to stop thinking about, like whether you’re really attracted to your partner, or if they’re “good enough” for you. These thoughts can feel distressing, uncontrollable, and all-consuming. What sets ROCD apart is the compulsive mental checking that follows. You might replay interactions, examine your partner’s every word, or repeatedly ask friends or family members, “Do you think we’re good together?” These rituals, designed to bring relief, often do the opposite. They intensify the anxiety and begin to erode the connection you’re trying to protect. Relationship OCD Examples: What It Can Look Like in Real Life ROCD doesn’t always look the same for everyone. For some, it shows up as intense anxiety about having children with their partner: “What if they’re not going to be a good parent?” For others, it might revolve around analyzing every interaction or feeling jealous of a past relationship their partner had. Here are a few common presentations of ROCD: “Do I love them enough? ” spirals, even when nothing’s wrong. Feeling distressed if your partner doesn’t respond the “right” way during a conversation. Constantly seeking reassurance from others about your relationship. Comparing your partner to idealized versions of relationships you see online. Avoiding important conversations or decisions (like parent-child planning) because of underlying doubts. The key thing to remember? These thoughts are symptoms of OCD, not reflections of reality. How OCD Affects Relationships ROCD can strain even the strongest partnerships. When someone is stuck in a cycle of obsessions and compulsions, it often leads to emotional distance, communication breakdowns, and frustration on both sides. A partner might feel like they’re walking on eggshells or like they’re being constantly evaluated. Meanwhile, the person experiencing ROCD may feel ashamed, misunderstood, or exhausted by their own mind. Many individuals report feeling like they can’t be fully present during time with their partner because their mind is so busy analyzing, comparing, or worrying. And over time, these patterns can impact the health of the relationship itself. That’s why relationship-centered, mental health-informed approaches are so vital. How to Treat Relationship OCD Thankfully, ROCD is treatable. But the most effective treatments don’t just focus on the relationship, they focus on the OCD. At Thrive, our therapists often use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and a specialized approach called Exposure and Response Prevention Therapy (ERP) . These modalities help people face their fears without performing compulsions. Over time, this rewires the brain’s response to uncertainty. Therapists may also incorporate experiential techniques like eye movement desensitization and reprocessing, which engage both the body and mind to help clients process intrusive thoughts and emotional pain. For some, prescription medication like SSRIs may be helpful as part of a treatment plan. For couples navigating ROCD together, couples counseling can support healthy communication and connection without reinforcing compulsions. How to Support a Partner with Relationship OCD If your partner is experiencing ROCD, your role is crucial. It's not about "fixing" them though, it’s about being a safe, steady presence. Here are a few ways to support your partner with ROCD: Educate yourself about OCD and ROCD so you can identify symptoms versus your partner’s true feelings. Avoid reassurance loops . It’s tempting to soothe their fears, but constant reassurance can reinforce the cycle. Encourage professional support with a therapist or psychologist experienced in OCD. Focus on building a relationship where uncertainty is tolerated, not feared. Practice empathy. Remember that these thoughts are distressing and involuntary. With the right tools and support, both of you can learn how to thrive even in the midst of mental health challenges. Final Thoughts: Healing Together ROCD can feel isolating and confusing, but you don’t have to face it alone. Whether you’re the one struggling or the one supporting, healing happens through community, compassion, and the right care. At Thrive Wellness, we believe in compassionate, holistic care, and we’re here to walk alongside you. Whether you need individual therapy, couples counseling, or a dedicated treatment plan, we’re here to help you find your way back to connection, peace, and presence. Need support? Reach out today and begin your journey toward healing together. For tools to help you cope with anxious thoughts, download our free breathing exercises guide "Breathe Easy" .
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